Embracing a new Decade
Ageing is never an easy process. Even though many said that I don't look a day after 27, the thought of having to admit that I m thirty sent shivers down my spine. But I m not going to lie shamelessly. I never had to lie about my age n am not ready to do so. Not that I love soliciting for comments that I look younger than my actual age, it still take a lot of getting used to than you think. The most scary part abt this new age box is not abt admitting, telling people your age, but the string of questions that comes after that.
Such as "So are you married?" or you just sense their eyes lingering to your right ring finger. Next to come,
"U must be seeing someone special or engaged?". This is not a statment, it's a question.
If your answer is "No, not at all!", next you observe a slightly arch eyebrow which means silent judgment.
"Just broke up?" merely means he/she is trying to salvage the awkward silent.
"Nope, I've been single for....let's see 2 yrs 3 mths." and from there I sense a death sentence is passed. Something must be very wrong with her. Hmm.... Stay away or proceed with caution. Urgh.... I hate this. I might be cynical here, but I've been thru this like a zillion times. That's when I hate chinese new year, where cousins 5 years younger than you became a parent, trying to give you all kinds of dating advice, showing off their marriage bliss, refraining from showing u what they really feel inside. Trying to tell you that I m missing out something big (as if I dun oredi know). It's frustrating n irritating at the same time. These friends n cousins are those u bullied them into playing stupid games with you when u were younger and they still look up to you for being the big sister, they envied me that I get to join cool uniform ECA in school. These are the same people that despised me now. Can anything be worse than that? There she is right here, my older single weirdo cousin, with a job n a dog, but not a life!
Yes, they try to pretend that their life isnt cool at all, as they reminsince how they miss the dating scene (as if), how diapers n baby talk rule their lives (rubbing their hubby hands, looking into their eyes at the same time). N yes, you are right, I m being a bit bitter here. I mean, dun have to pretend u are missing my life when u dun miss it a bit at all. Turning thirty is tough enough, esp when they see 30 year old single woman as a society leper.
My best friend who turned 30 a month before me reminded me that from now onwards, whenever I fill out an application form or survey, I need to get used to the idea that I m in an entirely new age box []30-35, so tick the right box. I m not filling out survey forms officially.
By now, u must be thinking that I m a desperate, uninteresting, scary looking, possibly obese, cynical, angry-depressive self serving maniac without a life.
There are perks to being in your 30s. Like u are now able to officially carry red lipstick well(not that I wear red). Being in my 30s means I m wiser too(hopefully). Being 30s generally mean you are more confident n not the type that constantly ask a man wat he's thinking. Women in their 30s generally are not clingy, they have a life of their own, their own opinions, they are usually not upset if your views differ from them.I don't solicit for compliments. If I wanna know how I look, I simply open my mouth n ask. I dun get upset when I dun get positive comments that I like to hear.
I believe in ageing gracefully n not having to lie abt my age. I can eat at hawker centers alone at ease without feeling that eyes are staring at me. I go for 1st dates without having to powder my face every 10 mins, I eat a full meal even on a 1st date without trying to pretend to pick at my salad. I love my food and am proud of it.
Yes ,there's room for improvement in every area. Well, I m still under construction. But I m definitely doing my best to embrace the next decade with grace n confidence!
At least, I m trying...
Such as "So are you married?" or you just sense their eyes lingering to your right ring finger. Next to come,
"U must be seeing someone special or engaged?". This is not a statment, it's a question.
If your answer is "No, not at all!", next you observe a slightly arch eyebrow which means silent judgment.
"Just broke up?" merely means he/she is trying to salvage the awkward silent.
"Nope, I've been single for....let's see 2 yrs 3 mths." and from there I sense a death sentence is passed. Something must be very wrong with her. Hmm.... Stay away or proceed with caution. Urgh.... I hate this. I might be cynical here, but I've been thru this like a zillion times. That's when I hate chinese new year, where cousins 5 years younger than you became a parent, trying to give you all kinds of dating advice, showing off their marriage bliss, refraining from showing u what they really feel inside. Trying to tell you that I m missing out something big (as if I dun oredi know). It's frustrating n irritating at the same time. These friends n cousins are those u bullied them into playing stupid games with you when u were younger and they still look up to you for being the big sister, they envied me that I get to join cool uniform ECA in school. These are the same people that despised me now. Can anything be worse than that? There she is right here, my older single weirdo cousin, with a job n a dog, but not a life!
Yes, they try to pretend that their life isnt cool at all, as they reminsince how they miss the dating scene (as if), how diapers n baby talk rule their lives (rubbing their hubby hands, looking into their eyes at the same time). N yes, you are right, I m being a bit bitter here. I mean, dun have to pretend u are missing my life when u dun miss it a bit at all. Turning thirty is tough enough, esp when they see 30 year old single woman as a society leper.
My best friend who turned 30 a month before me reminded me that from now onwards, whenever I fill out an application form or survey, I need to get used to the idea that I m in an entirely new age box []30-35, so tick the right box. I m not filling out survey forms officially.
By now, u must be thinking that I m a desperate, uninteresting, scary looking, possibly obese, cynical, angry-depressive self serving maniac without a life.
There are perks to being in your 30s. Like u are now able to officially carry red lipstick well(not that I wear red). Being in my 30s means I m wiser too(hopefully). Being 30s generally mean you are more confident n not the type that constantly ask a man wat he's thinking. Women in their 30s generally are not clingy, they have a life of their own, their own opinions, they are usually not upset if your views differ from them.I don't solicit for compliments. If I wanna know how I look, I simply open my mouth n ask. I dun get upset when I dun get positive comments that I like to hear.
I believe in ageing gracefully n not having to lie abt my age. I can eat at hawker centers alone at ease without feeling that eyes are staring at me. I go for 1st dates without having to powder my face every 10 mins, I eat a full meal even on a 1st date without trying to pretend to pick at my salad. I love my food and am proud of it.
Yes ,there's room for improvement in every area. Well, I m still under construction. But I m definitely doing my best to embrace the next decade with grace n confidence!
At least, I m trying...
posted by Birkenstocker at 7:45 AM
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